- Guilt or innocence really doesn't make a big difference. The church doesn't have access to an investigative body. The only things that really are going to matter are if the leadership wants to find you guilty and what you say. Further churches are highly authoritarian structures that punish non conformity, while they can't admit to it viciously punishing an innocent person is probably more in their interests (that is it terrifies the other members) more than doing it to a guilty person.
- Your relationship with the church is unavoidably damaged. The good days are over. In trying to establish goals you are going to figure out what to do from here. But holding on to the past is going to do nothing but hurt you. Accept the fact that things are going to be bad for you. You will never (or at least for a long time) be trusted or esteemed the same way again.
- Church courts work on your conscience and they are very effective.
- to provide a "how-to" guide
- as well as help you to think of options you may not have
- help you consider plusses and minuses
The basic structure is to first decide on a goal, then:
Methods that allow you to remain in the church
- Utter denial
- Pleading to a lesser charge
- Make the charges more specific
- Flirting with a church your church hates
- Complicating the case
Methods that avoid civil repercussions